Your Questions About Working From Home

Maria asks…

Can my employer make me go back to work if I am currently working from home?

I live in CT and have worked for this company for over 10 years, the last 4 of them from home. My employer is telling me I have to go back to the office or they consider me resigning. I want them to give me a pink slip because working in the office won't work for me.

admin answers:

They are not going to have to pink slip you, they will be firing you for refusing to report to work.

For future employment quiting is better then being fired.

Charles asks…

What kind of job can I try working from home?

What kind of job can I try working from home on my computer? No surveys, ads or paying from information.

admin answers:

Look very carefully most of these work at home deals are scams and look up on Google review sites so you can see how they're evaluated and rated and if you see too many things with low evaluations you need to avoid them because it will most likely be a scam. Look for the legit stuff.

Richard asks…

What kind of job can I get working from home?

I'd like to get a part-time or full-time job working FROM HOME. What jobs are available for someone who wants to work from home?

admin answers:

A friend of mine has a bookkeeping business from home, she

charges about $100-200 a month to help other small businesse,s..,. Do

their books, she writes checks and makes sure the checking

accounts are balanced!

It may take a bit of marketing on your part but if you get 2

clients you will only have to work minimal amounts of time.

Linda asks…

How would I go about being a self-employed secretary working from home?

I have really good general secretarial qualifications and have always liked the idea of working from home. I'm not sure though whether there is a market for an independant secretary and if so what market would I aim my services at??

admin answers:

Advertise in your local paper and your local business development agency - they help new start businesses who may not be able to afford their own full time secretarial support.

Good luck

Joseph asks…

Does anyone know any LEGIT ways of making money by working from home?

I am aware of all the scams out there, but i also know that many people make money by working from home.

admin answers:

I know a lot about this topic so please forgive the length of this reply. I have a lot of good info for you. I am a mother of two little girls who are actually tugging on my arm as I write this so I will try to be brief. Many people are looking for work from home companies. All the scams definitely create a big problem but also, there is a problem of people misunderstanding the difference between work from home "jobs" and work from home opportunities. There really are not work from home “jobs”. To get that you have to start working for a company in their offices first, then they MAY allow you to take the job home.

Most of the work from home opportunities that are legitimate offers are not an hourly pay type job. They are business opportunities that help you in starting your own business from your home.

What you should do first is to decide if you are simply looking for an hourly rate type job or if you are looking for more of an opportunity for additional income such as what you would make in your own business being your own boss from home. Many say a JOB stands for Just Over Broker and I have found that to be true as well. I never got anywhere working for others.

Small home businesses have some small costs involved, less then $100 to start is reasonable and I would stay away from those wanting $300, $500 even some asking for $1000-$5000. It doesn’t cost that much to start and run a home business so you shouldn’t pay it. The real ones will have a small monthly overhead as well. Should be around $50 a month but no more then $75. And everything should be included from your web sites to training and team support to back office accounting and booking. It’s ok to pay this overhead because it’s a business, they cost money. It’s not reasonable to assume you can run a business from home with a website and more for free so do keep that in mind as you search.

If you are coming across places that say free then I would RUN don’t walk the other way! They never are. I tried them many a times and 3 weeks later I had to buy this and 6 weeks later that. After 6 months these “free businesses” had cost me over $800 on average.

I’m a stay at home mom of two little girls as I mentioned, ages 1 and 3. I work about 15-18 hours per week for a National Medical Benefits Company. This is a home business, a nationally known and reputable home business which is what you need to make sure you are looking for. I have been with the company almost a year now and I make over $2000 a month! In your first month, depending on how many hours you can work, I have seen people make anywhere from $300 to over $3000. And your income will increase each month because we get paid residual income as well. If I continue on as I am going at the end of the year I will be making $5000 a month. My friend Becky from South Carolina started 2 years before me and she is now making $95,000 a year with this company.

The best part is they have 401(k), direct deposit, life insurance and a benefits package most of which you get from day one. In addition, there are no products, no hard selling or pushing, no cold calling, no home parties and no telemarketing! That was VERY important to me.

I absolutely love working with them and I can't believe I am making what I am making and in so few hours per week. The neat thing is there are other people on your team that you work with so you are never alone. You have great team support and you get to know the other people on your team pretty well. The support is great but I have made wonderful friends as well. I think that’s important too, especially being at home!

I was a bit apprehensive at first because I know a lot of companies are not legit but this company is the number one National Medical Benefits Company in the US. They are a member of the US Chamber of Commerce, and the National Association of Dental Plans and the owner of the company actually sits on the board of The Consumer Health Alliance to which we are also members. Also they were featured in “The New York Times”, “Wall Street Journal” “Time Magazine” and the “American Medical Review”. Even “60 Minutes” with Morley Safer did a big special on this home based business.

Even more then all this is they are accepted at over 100,000 retailers nation wide. These are fortune 500 companies like Sears, Target, Walgreens, CVS, Wal-mart, Publix and more. These companies would never work with a company that was any thing less then reputable. That made me feel very good about working with them knowing they were accepted at these stores that I frequent. Also now of course being with them I get the dental and vision benefits for free and I saved over $150 on my last visit to the dentist! That’s just a beautiful perk! : - )

When I first started I just felt very safe with them, that and my friend was already making so much money with Ameriplan. But at this point I feel a sense of security financially that our family has never had before. That plus LOV

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Opportunities abound to make money online. how will you determine what is best and what to focus on. Here we will examine online money making strategies and their advantages and disadvantages.

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Your Questions About Goal Setting

Paul asks…

Can you summarize the Goal Setting process?

Can you summarize the process of Goal Setting?

What key names are associated with effective goal setting and completion?

Thank you.

admin answers:

Goal Setting simply must be SMART.

S= specific
M= measurable
A= achievable
R= realistic
T= time

And there is a long term goal and the small steps goal in achieving the final goal. For eg. Mastering a language in 2 years time. Daily goal would be to learn 5 words a day. Converse simple sentence in two months... Etc.

Nancy asks…

Do you know of any free goal setting software?

I am looking for free goal setting software. One that can sync up with an iPhone app, has alerts, and has progress charts. If you know of a relatively cheap app that is really good mention it. Also mention really good free ones you know of even if they don;t have the requirements.

admin answers:

I have seen some free ware ones on the net you might search for them

Jenny asks…

Do Sports Psychologists who are Cognitive use Goal setting as a method?

I am a little confused because I have read that Goal Setting is a behaviourist's method. But the I found a definition by Locke & Latham defining goal setting as ''a cognitive theory of motivation which effectively energizes an individual to becoming more productive''.

My real question is could a Sports Psychologist who claims to be purely Cognitive justify Goal Setting as a method?

admin answers:

The concept of goal setting and the practicality of manifesting that type of behavior can certainly fall into the cognitive realm.

And, yes, sports psychologist will use this technique, along with myriad others, to motivate their clients.

Helen asks…

How can I make Goal-Setting playful, humorous and fun?

I have done many hours of google research for my Yahoo Groups goal-setting and humility-humor. I have never found anything about goal-setting and humor. Goal-setting seems to be regarded as an overly serious activity which I find discourages me from goal-setting, especially for career goals.

admin answers:

Goal setting, in and of itself, is pretty straight forward: you have a goal and you work towards it.

A way to make it fun and humorous is to allow yourself wacky rewards for meeting smaller goals on your way to the 'main' goal. Thus, if you have a goal of losing 35 lbs, then when you lose 5 lbs you can call it 'wear a wacky hat day'. You can even stop somewhere and spend some time purchasing a wacky hat for just such an occasion.

Another way of having fun is using fun stationary to keep track of your goals and progress. Maybe putting your goals on Disney stationary, and writing them down with your very own Simba Lion King pen, makes it seem more adventerous and fun to you.

Something else to keep in mind is to not be quite so 'strict' when it comes to not making a goal. That is, if your goal is to walk 5 miles every day this week, and you only did it 3 days, then mark the days you did with extra attention and keep focused on the fact that you at least did it three times. Usually, it is the appearance of 'failure' that keeps most people from working towards their goals; they don't know how to accept the failure and still keep going. Sure, maybe you won't progress as fast as you would have liked, but the fact that you are still going on will actually be a positive reinforcement to you (see, I didn't give up, even when I didn't make it when I thought I was going to).

I have a goal of going back and finishing school, and I thought I was going to be able to go back in August but it looks like I won't be able to make it until January. Instead of being 'upset', I decided that the change was a positive one (allowed me more time to prepare and helped to reinforce my dedication to the overall goal.) Setbacks are where some of the lack of humour seems to come in, but it doesn't ahve to be.

Richard asks…

Goal Setting?

I listened to a speaker once called Brian Tracy, He said the most important thing to achieving sucess in life is to write goals, and by writing goals and make plans on how to achieve them you subconciously work towards your goals.

Is this true or a load of tosh?

admin answers:

I think if you have a goal in life you really want to achieve, you're not going to need to write it down to remember!

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Q&A: What are the price ranges for Freelance Editing/Writing?

Question by Audrey D:
I was offered a job to edit or help write for a production company…I’m a freelance writer/editor with some college education…Should I charge per article, word, pg…and if so, how much…..

Answer by Voughn
Price depends on what publication you’re going to freelance for, on your portfolio, specialty and whether you’re recognized in the feed or not.
When I used to freelance publications would just give me…

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Technology Activist Richard Stallman to Discuss “Copyright and Community in the Age of Computer Networks” at Cogswell College

SUNNYVALE, Calif.--(BUSINESS WIRE)--Cogswell College (cogswell.edu/), one of the world’s leading regionally-accredited institutions offering a unique curriculum that fuses digital arts, engineering and entrepreneurship, announced that Richard Stallman will discuss “Copyright and Community in the Age of Computer Networks,” on Wednesday, March 7, at 7:00 PM at the Cogswell campus. Stallman’s dynamic presentation is part of an ongoing lecture series sponsored by Cogswell’s Entrepreneurship Program. Often provocative, Stallman challenges audiences to reexamine their relationship with the technology they use on a daily basis.

“Copyright and Community in the Age of Computer Networks”

DATE:         March 7, 2012 TIME: 7:00 to 9:30PM PLACE: Cogswell College, Dragon’s Den COST: Free

Refreshments to be served

Richard Stallman, a software developer and software freedom activist, launched the free software movement in 1983 and started the development of the GNU operating system in 1984. in October 1985, he started the Free Software Foundation, a nonprofit with a worldwide mission to promote computer user freedom and to defend the rights of all free software users.

in “Copyright vs. Community,” Stallman explains how copyright developed in the age of the printing press and was designed to fit in the system of centralized copying that the printing press imposed. he contends the copyright system does not fit well within the framework of computer networks and only draconian punishments can enforce it. Stallman’s presentation explores how global corporations that profit from copyright are lobbying for severe punishments for infringements and to increase their copyright powers, while suppressing public access to technology. a key thesis of his lecture examines the following: “If we seriously hope to serve the only legitimate purpose of copyright—to promote progress for the benefit of the public—then we must make changes in the other direction.”

according to Stallman, as our society grows more dependent on computers, the software we run is of critical importance to securing the future of a free society. Free software is about having control over the technology we use in our homes, schools and businesses, where computers work for our individual and communal benefit and not for proprietary software companies or governments who might seek to restrict and monitor us.

since the mid-1990s, Stallman has spent most of his time in political advocacy for free software and spreading the ethical ideas of the movement. Additionally, he has campaigned against both software patents and dangerous extension of copyright laws. Before that, Stallman developed a number of widely used software components of the GNU system including the original Emacs, the GNU Compiler Collection, the GNU symbolic debugger (gdb), GNU Emacs and various other programs for the GNU operating system.

Stallman has received the ACM Grace Hopper Award, a MacArthur Foundation fellowship, the Electronic Frontier Foundation's Pioneer Award, and the Takeda Award for Social/Economic Betterment, as well as several honorary doctorates.

Please RSVP (cogswell.edu/news/news020812.php)

About Cogswell Polytechnical College

Located in Sunnyvale, Calif., in the heart of the Silicon Valley, Cogswell College is an accredited four-year institution of higher education with a curriculum that fuses art, engineering and entrepreneurship. as one of the Bay Area’s premier colleges, its novel academic approach offers an integrated model that emulates the industry environment—a collaborative, project-based, learning approach that uses multidisciplinary teams to take projects from concept through the delivery pipeline.

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Your Questions About Work Out World

Daniel asks…

why do we as humans work out whole life then live this world with nothing?

why do we work so hard to have so much that we can not keep? why do we not just try to enjoy life?

admin answers:

At least your family will have something... So that they don't have to work hard.

My dad died penniless... It would help if he had work and work... And leave money in the bank... So I can inherit and work less. But my dad was too selfish.

Laura asks…

How do we work out how many people (worldwide) died in World War II?

Do we include those who died in neutral countries or of natural causes (i.e. old age) between September 1939 and August 1945? What about those who died later as a direct result of their suffering during the war (i.e. victims of Hiroshima and Nagasaki or survivors from concentration camps)?

I've heard estimates varying from 40 to 72 million people.

admin answers:

Estimates vary for several reasons, it could be becuase not all bodies could be found, it could be because it is unsure whether men had died or surrendered, it could be because not all forces were keeping detailed records, it can also be just that different people want to paint a different picture of the conflict, by either including or excluding numbers that others would decidde to keep out or in.

Sharon asks…

I don't feel like I belong in this world anymore, and I want out. Help? Advice? Anything?

I don't understand people. Honestly, it feels like I'm not human anymore; like I never was. I don't have the ordinary things that other people have - I can't connect to others, I feel outside and lonely, I can't seem to figure out how this world works, how people's heads work... I don't want what other people want, I don't need what others need, I don't think the way that others do. People and all of their endless, meaningless sh*t simply bores me. I want this sh*t to end; I no longer want to be part of a world I don't have any connection with and don't want any part of; I don't want to commit suicide, I just really want out of this place; I can't take this depressing feeling anymore. Can anyone help me? Why do I feel like this? People don't even seem to realize that I feel so removed from them, like everything's fine and that I'm exactly like them...

admin answers:

I've said this before and I'll say it again...Turn to Jesus. Perhaps you will understand better than most what He meant when He said " Be in the world but not of the world."
He is seeking His own and I believe that He is calling you in the same way He called me and countless others.
Study the bible and you will see. Find a church that teaches the bible... Not one that is just concerned with rituals and rites like the catholics are but one that goes through the bible verse by verse and line by line.
Jesus hated religion because religion glorified the rituals and rites (the "law" ) and ignored teaching the truth and giving the glory to God.
God's ways are not our ways and why God has chosen to "blind" some people to the truth and to allow others to "see" is a mystery but it is so.
If you see the things you do going on around you are not crazy. I think you are being called to Christ.
The bible says that many things will occur "till the time of the Gentiles is fulfilled." The time of the Gentiles refers to the church.
The Church he is talking about is not a building but rather those people who believe that Jesus is the Son of God and the savior to all who turn to him.
There will come a time, and I believe that time is very near, when Jesus will take His church, along with the Holy Spirit, out of this world. I don't know how or when or where this will happen but He said it will happen and so it will... I want to be on board when He does because I don't want to be here when the Holy Spirit, the spirit of truth and righteousness is gone, leaving the world to those corrupt and evil people who will have no moral compass.

John asks…

I don't feel like I belong in this world anymore, and I want out. Help? Advice? Anything?

I don't understand people. Honestly, it feels like I'm not human anymore; like I never was. I don't have the ordinary things that other people have - I can't connect to others, I feel outside and lonely, I can't seem to figure out how this world works, how people's heads work... I don't want what other people want, I don't need what others need, I don't think the way that others do. I want it to end; I no longer want to be part of a world I don't have any connection with and don't want any part of. I really want out, and I can't take this depressing feeling anymore. Can anyone help me?

admin answers:

I just figure, why be like everyone else? This world is demented and disfigured anyway. And i think that maybe you should begin to write because despite how different you feel from everyone else, if you just start to write if can bring a lot of people closer to you. Psychologists help too of course.

Also, about the "not wanting what others want, or having what they have". Ive come to realize that we don't need all those material things anyways. There is a song lyric that says:
"If you're cup's already full then its bound to overflow
If you're drowning in the water's and you can't stay afloat"

so i figure we all take advantage of the things we overlook.

And lastly, who knows if there is an afterlife or if being dead is any better than being alive. But i hope hope hope that you won't let yourself find out any time soon. You never know, there is always a chance for someone to come into your life and turn things around. It is a waiting game not worth giving up.

"nobody can save you but
yourself
and you're worth saving.
It's a war not easily won
but if anything is worth winning then
this is it."
-Bukowski

i really hope i was a tad bit of help.

Robert asks…

Are there many Christians out there that actively work towards precipitating the end of the world in order to?

fulfil their scripture?

How evil is this?

admin answers:

A very select few nutters are trying to instigate the rapture. Some of them are simply engaging in fairly mundane endeavours such as trying to breed red cows (I'm not sure why but apparently a red cow is one of the harbingers of the rapture).
Others (an even smaller minority of Christians, generally confined to the mentally impaired) are suggesting ways of expanding the war in the middle east etc. But it is luckily a very small number.

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Q&A: What tax forms do freelancers or home business people so that taxes can be figured?

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I’m considering starting to freelance: writing articles, blogs, and possibly doing freelance editing and proofreading. The problem is, I want to pay my taxes out of each check, the same as if I had filled out a W-4 form from an employer. That way, I know tax time won’t end with me paying a huge sum of money, but rather filling out my federal tax statements and already having…

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Your Questions About Work From Home Forum

Thomas asks…

Why does H&R Block have employees trolling this website?

I see them answering all kinds of tax questions, and suggesting people use their overpriced, predatory tax service. Is it appropriate that they are using this forum to solicit?

BTW, I find it disgusting they way they prey on struggling families. Charging enormous interest rates and fees for someone to get a refund a few days early. Their tax advice is awful. I highly recommend finding a tax preparer who works from their home office. They can e-file, they are cheaper and they can offer excellent advice that H&R block never would. Is it really worth getting your refund 2-3 days earlier for $100's more?

http://answers.yahoo.com/my/profile;_ylt=AuAtqPncP91t6TNn9vDPaK2kxQt.;_ylv=3?show=T0TsSbCAaa

Here's one, but there are more, all start with HRBLOCK", I'm going to find them all.
See, copied from her answer:

Hi, I'm Linda from H & R Block.

Yes. Go to www.irs.gov and look under forms and publications. These forms are fillable. The IRS will only allow you to file the 2007, 2006 & 2005 returns (unless they are requiring the other back years)

This advice was prepared based on our understanding of the tax law in effect at the time it was written as it applies to the facts that you provided.
1 day ago

admin answers:

It's just marketing. If you offered a service, wouldn't you look for new customers in a place where everybody has already admitted they have questions in your area of practice?

BTW, I happen to agree that the big commercial tax services are way overpriced. They make a lot of money pushing unnecessary (and very expensive) add-ons like refund anticipation loans. But if suckers want them, we can't do much more than keep telling people that such loans are alarmingly overpriced.

So, kind readers, beware of marketing. Not everyone who gives advice gives GOOD advice!

Linda asks…

do you take backseat to your boyfriend/girlfriends, husband/wifes hobbies?

We have been together almost 5 yrs. Married almost 3 and have a 2.5 yr old little boy. Almost all of my husbands free time is consumed by either his online gaming or his hobby as a mechanic. Admittedly, he works as a mechanic but...he will come home from work w/magazines to read about it and obsessively check certain websites and forums he posts in to talk about it with others. He always has 2 or 3 "projects" that are never completed and that always need one more item. A lot of our money goes to this hobby. He will stop wrenching on something to eat dinner with us then he spends the rest of the nite playing his online game or talking online. He will come to bed at 2am and bitch how late it is. He will still get up early to go online before work though. I couldn't tell you the last time we had sex because he never has time for anything else. He told me his mechanic hobby will not change. Any advice since it is sucking our relationship and bank acount dry?

admin answers:

Hello,

The best thing you can do i think is first maybe talk to him. Make a list of ALL the things he does for himself minus work...and make one for yourself...and with each other and with just your son....I'm betting his list will be longer lol....find out which ones he is willing to give up...and by give up i dont mean for good...if he wants to stay up until 2am and play on line that's fine...but you better not have to suffer from it that night when he is tired....and after dinner time until you bed time is a great time for him to spend time with YOU and YOUR SON!

My husbands hunts....which if you know hunting....there is something to be hunted ALL year long...its annoying...but i finally made a list and said...whats the most important to you? He told me ELK hunting so...during that season i rarely see him (about a month)...but during all other season he can hunt but not ALL the time...so it works for us...it also works to have your own hobbies (i took up dancing) we also have a 2year old.....my husband now works as a mechanic for a huge construction company 14 hours a day 6 days a week....so now he has no time....

If your hubby isn't wiling to give up somethings....then up i would leave at least for a little while to show your not messing around..i dont know?? Good luck!...because sucking the bank dry is hurting your son also...in the long run right? Financially?

Good Luck to you!

Sandra asks…

Microsoft support phone call to me - is it a scam?

My Dad had a phone call I think was a scam. The guy - Brendon he said his name was, tried to get my Dad to go to www.support.me, and said his number was, 0870041012 (calling from Adelaide, Australia, while my Dad lives in Brisbane, Australia), and was saying that my Dads computer had virus alerts and wasn't working, but that the warranty had expired and that it would cost him $220 to renew the warranty for 12 months and they would fix it.
lol

He even spent about 3 hours on the phone with my Dad attempting to fix Dads computer, which was not working due to other unrelated issues, luckily I got on the phone when I came home from work and figured it out with one google search.

I posted this on http://forums.whirlpool.net.au/archive/1692820 also

What should I do about this? Who can I report this to?

admin answers:

It's a very common scam

If your dad allowed them to access his computer he is in serious danger of identity theft. He immediatley needs to change his password on his online banking accounts, credit card accounts, email, facebook and anything else with personal information as the scammers now have copied this. If he has ANY credit card statements, bank statements, tax forms, etc on his hard drive or his email account, he immediately needs to file a fraud alert as the scammers have now copied all of this. I don't know how it works in Oz but in the US you first contact your bank and credit card companies to put a fraud alert on your account (which will normally require you to be issued new account numbers) then you file a fraud alert with the 3 main credit bureaus - Equifax, Experian, TransUnion

He should also take his computer to a real repair shop unless you know computers and clear any viruses, malware, trojans, keyloggers, etc that they installed on his computer

Ken asks…

My wife told me she isn't in love with me any more?

This is going to be long. I have to be 100% honest to get the best answers. My wife and I have been together for 9 yrs. come Sept. She was 20 and I was 23 it started as a one night stand that kept growing. After 6 months we move in together. By then her birthday had passed and we moved into our first place together. We go into fights and about a year later we moved to our second place. I broke up with her when she was 23 after her insecurities had her calling me upset when I was at work. She was lonely, didn't like to go out, and didn't work. I made her move back in with her dad. That lasted for about 3 months before we got back together. At this time I had developed a porn addiction. That of which started about 6 months before I broke up with her. The porn addiction was not due to lack of sex. So we had about 5 big fights about the porn and then one day she said, "I don't care about you looking at porn anymore." More recently she told me she had to she out the pain. So we get over my porn addiction and life moves on. Year 5.5 we were happier and getting along very well. We decide that we would like to have a child. Not trying but not being careful about it. Well it happened about 6 months after we decide that. Next thing you know we get married, probably for the wrong reasons, aka. Health insurance. Now I really f*cked up. I had began what I thought was an innocent text sex relationship. Now to be CLEAR, the text msgs we only sexual never were emotional nor did it lead to infidelity. She had a hunch but I always denied. This text sex began before her pregnancy and lasted for about 10 months. When she found out it was already in the past, about 2 months. The reason I stopped was after our child was born I knew that what I was doing was terribly wrong. That all these fantasies I should have been sharing with her. This was around year 6. We stayed together because of our child and I wanted to be with her. It took a lot of talking before she told me she forgave me. She also told me that my trust had to be earned. I would say that it took a year and a half before she was over it. Well fast forward to present. My father passed on June 4. We grieved together and with my mother. Well now I was wondering what she's been doing on her phone. It turns out she got a chat app and was talking to men. I try to think nothing of it and carry on grieving with my mother. Well last Sunday, Fathers Day, I came home from work an she is trying to tell me something bu can't spit it out. I told her that the only way we can address whats on her mind is to talk about it. Man I wish I would have waited for Monday. Her words were, "I think that there is someone out there that is going to be better for you." I ask her what she really meant and it went on to, I don't think I am in love with you anymore. Theres no mystery between us. I have feelings for other people and I don't think I should have to deny those feelings. And that I have never in the 9 years together have I made her feel like she was special. I don't show her affection. She doesn't have anything for her self. No job, money or car. I told her I do truly love her and that I will learn how to how her my love in more ways. She has heard this before and she told me she'll give me one final chance to show my love to her. But she also adds that she doesn't think that her feelings for other men will ever stop and that if she does have those feelings she will act on them. She is looking for a job and we still sleep in the same bed. I don't wantto lose her to her self. I can't stop her from doing what she wants. What in the h*ll do I do? I read threads and forums and most say that I need to leave her alone and let her do he thing while trying to improve myself while moving forward. I can do that but I don't think that will be enough. Please give me some advice. I will answer any questions ASAP. Thank you!

admin answers:

Whoa there. That is a lot of tmi there, but I get the picture. Now sit down for this a second because I am going to explain.
She loved you at one point- probably still does. At the very least she cares for you enough to try to be honest with you. Those are good things and you shouldn't turn them into bad ones (dumpees tend to do that).
You two hooked up young. She probably felt something really special towards you and thought you did too. Perhaps your indiscretions caused her to think that you didn't care as much as she did. Certainly living with someone for a long time can take the passion out of any relationship, so one day she realizes she is lonely and tries to connect. Problem is that she hasn't had these kinds of feelings in so long that she thinks that any chance of that with you is dead. She wants to feel alive and worth something. It sounds like you think like most men. That if you protect and provide for and try to be a good hubby that she will be happy and feel loved, but it doesn't work like that. She needs to feel that connection with you. In order for that to happen you are going to have to (again) fall madly in love with your wife. Do all those silly things. Make her fall for you again. Treat her like she is a prize that you WANT. Resist te urge to treat her like your wife. Treat her like she hasn't agreed to marry you but you really want her too.
If you can show her that you two can still have that connection that she thinks has gone, then you have a chance. I think counseling will be a great idea. I wish you the best!

Mark asks…

How much time should I give my cancer ex-boyfriend?

My cancer boyfriend just ended our relationship over a misunderstanding due to lack of communication on both parts. I'm 32 and am used to dating men who tell me I want to spend too much time with them and I show too much affection. Therefore, when I met my cancer man, I tried to do what I have been "trained" by my other exes. He lives an hour away so I spend all weekend, every weekend with him, which is more than what I was used to with my exes so I thought that was a good amount of time. I have no problem seeing him everyday, I just dont want him to get tired of me, so I didnt push for more time. From reading about cancer men, he is definitely a cancer to a T. He was so open in the beginning about his feelings, then it stopped and on came the mood swings. He still displayed his affection and I have never questioned his feelings for me, cuz his actions make it clear...

The problem that caused him to want out was this:
He was assuming that I didnt want to be with him because I wasnt trying to see him all the time, or that I might be looking elsewhere because he saw my online on the dating site we met on. I fell hard for this wonderful man and he is the only one I want to be with. I was on the dating site to change my status from single to involved. I didnt change the status on the social network we share because after asking him what our situation was, and him not giving me an answer, I assumed it was best to leave it alone until he let me know we were actually in a relationship. That blew up in my face and when I asked to see him to talk in person about all this he said no. I told him i was confused why he didnt want to see me, and he said he was confused as well. I didnt know why and he didnt tell me. I eventually realized we were confused about the same things. I thought it was obvious I wanted to be with him and him only, but I was wrong. He thought I didnt want him like I say I do, but he is wrong. After telling me he didnt want me to come see him I did anyways and was waiting for him when he got home from work. Stalkerish I know but I felt I needed to do something drastic for him to know I really do want him. It worked, he was moody the whole time and didnt say much but by morning things were back to normal. That day I changed my status and waited to see how he would react. He did nothing and I asked him about it, he said wow ur checking my pages, thats another red flag and more stalkerish type stuff, and that he didnt want to continue with me anymore. I reminded him that he did the same to me, and I'm just trying to show him without a doubt my feelings for him and that I absolutely want to be with him. Stalker is not my style as I made him wait for months before giving him the time of day, and he knows that. I tried to fight for him to not make such drastic decision but he told me to respect it. I told him this is all one big misunderstanding and things dont have to go this far, but I respect his decision and would leave him be...

I am an aquarius and patience is not my thing at all, plus, I have never wanted a guy back before this so I have been going nuts reading all these forums and cancer men info. It gives me hope to read that cancer men will come back, and to just give them time and space. But how much time is enough? How much is too much and how much is too little? And what do I say when I try to contact him? Or do I have to wait for him to contact me? Also, did he say he wanted out because he meant it? Or was he just displaying his hurt. I know NOW how sensitive he really is so I am hoping he will get over his hurt and want me again.

I have never posted anything like this and could really use some good advice, PLEASE. I would love to know the thoughts of cancer men especially since they would have the best knowledge of their fellow cancers. Help!

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When he was born has nothing to do with ANYTHING except how old he is

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Steven asks…

The mummy? a few ideas of my own. Please tell me if they're any good?

ok i've got a few ideas for the mummy 4. me and my friends got really bored so we had to come up with a plot, characters ect to do with our favourite movie and they said mine was really good.
Some locals find Imhoteps body in the desert while they are searching for water and they take it to the Cairo museum and the Book of the dead is there too. A business man (obessed with acient Egypt) steals the corspe and takes it back to his English home where there are alot of mercinaries. A young woman in London is kidnapped when she is about to go to bed. The head of the Meji (sorry forgot his name) goes to the O'connalls and tells them Imhotep is about to re-awakened. They go to this country house and the woman is chained to the wall and the ceramony to wake him up is happening. Jonathon and alex are told to try and get the woman out while meji and Ric distract the mercinaries. Imhotep is awake and walks up to the woman and says 'It is her. Isira. she does not remember'. then they start to fire at them and Imhotep orders the men to get her. Jonathan and Alex get to her and take her outside. everyone is out of the building and is in a car when the warrior mummies come after them. They open the boot and start firing at them from there. they get to safety. its cold and Jonathan give Isira his coat. she doesnt know what the hell is happening they explain to her. Meji tells her who she really is. she was the one who placed the hundi on imhotep (high preistess) and she was and egyptain goddess (gods erased every trace of her only meji know she exists) but she was 'thrown out' cos of what she did and she was the one who entrusted the meji with making sure he stayed dead. Imhotep wants her cos she's the only one who knows how to get to the underworld through Osiris's (her father) tomb where he can get immortal warriors that he can take over the world with. If Imhotep marries her he has a perfect right to rule the world and the gods wouldnt be able to interfere. they are on a train in cairo when imhotep storms in and takes her jonathan (he falls in love with her). then they go round egypt looking for the 'key' to open up the tomb. they find it. they are about to go into the underworld when Isira and Jon realise o'connells are in front of them. they dont tell imhotep. when they are where they need to awaken the warriors imhotep realises they are already awake. Alex orders them to kill Imhotep and they charge at him and they get jonathan too and they go over a cliff. Jon is clinging on halfway down. Imhotep is near the top and when isira rushes over to try and save jon she cant reach. Imhotep put his hand to to him so he can climb up over him. everyone is shocked. when isira reaches down to grab is arm he lets go of the cliff face and falls. she tells everyone that she was going to remove the curse. then they have to leave quick cos the tomb is collasping above them. after they get out jon tells isira he loves her an vice versa. all ride off in to sunset.
can i please have your opinions?
thanx
i didnt know that there wasnt a character limit anymore lol

admin answers:

If you could rephrase that in sentences and paragraphs then i'll let you know, but from what i could read it was definitely interesting. (in a good way)

Susan asks…

My husband cheated on me with 6 women? I can't get over the pain. What should i do?

Ok so i have been with my husband now for 10 years. We got married a few years ago after our daughter was born. About 4 months ago i found out he has been cheating on me throughout the years. I had to force him to come clean with me. It was one girl a day pretty much for almost a week. While it was happening i was destroyed emotionally. I was vomitting and crying.....it was the worst pain of my life. We always had a rocky relationship, but i was the bread winner, i cleaned, cooked, took care of our child.....we had our great times, but we also had some really bad times. The cheating started like the 2nd year into our relationship with a girl at work that was after him. They had sex once, and then it was done. Then the next girl was an older women he was talking to about our relationship with, and our problems, then he had sex 2 times with her. Then we broke up for a month, where he left me and the country without telling me(we were living together) and had sex with his childhood sweetheart. Then he came back, found me, and we got back together. 8 months later i was pregnant....like 4 years into our relationship. Then he had an affair for 5 months with someone when our daughter was like 5 months or so. They had sex many times. Then he was good for a while, and we got married. KEEP IN MIND I HAD NO IDEA YET OF ANY OF THESE WOMEN!!! Then i ran into a family emergency where i had to take custody of my teenage brother. He had many problems, so the courts ordered a therapist for him to come in my home for 20 hours a week to help him and me in dealing with him. His therapist became my friend, and our daughters became best friends. Once my brother moved back with our mother, we stayed in close contact. I left town for a business trip twice that year, and my husband never had been alone with our child to run the house, so she helped out, and the kids played. I was gone for one month, came home for almost 2 months and then left for another month. The whole time they were together with the kids. Then she stopped answering my calls, and then moved in with my mother in law who was looking for a roomate. Turns out i found out she was after my husband, and they had an emotional affair for 2 years, and had sex 5 times. He said he kept trying to avoid it and thought they were friends that kept making the mistake. All the while she (my best friend) told him she really didn't like me, and i was just a pain. Whatever...so now here i am. 10 years with him, i love him, we have a beautiful family, he has began to change, and treats me better than ever, but i still HURT so badly!!! I think of it daily, sometimes all day. every question you can think of comes to mind. i try to avoid it, but my mind is a mess. i am depressed and feel so betrayed. it has been 4 months since i found out. I just feel like the last 10 years are nothing. I feel like i wasted my time. I was faithful. i feel like he will do it again.....10 years....that's a long time!!!! i feel like all our vacations and special time meant nothing to him. He of course says he was just stupid, and made a mistake, and was blind to the extent of what he was doing. he promises to never do it again. He wants to make me happy for the rest of my life and even remarry me, to start fresh. What do i do?? This is all so hurtful. My heart hurts almost all day everyday. I cry during sex. I imagine him with others while having sex....of course i don't try to do this, but i do. I try to erase it, but it haunts me. I'm so lost.......any advise?????

admin answers:

Answer
read your long and very sad letter .
I know people who have been through this,
i know it can be very hurting,but do you think ,
you can forgive him,forgiveness will give you peace,
but hatred will destroy you,
he has said he is sorry,he has promised do be good,
decide if you want to forgive him,life is short,try to find
some happiness and peace of mind.
Do you believe in the power of God? If yes,pray ,
he is a miracle God,he can restore your lives ,
and your household .
Only god can bring back the trust,remove the hurt,
and bring back healing,God is a miracle worker,try him.
God is against divorce,think about it .

Betty asks…

Ladies, would you be willing to clean a guy's house for free room and board?

This question was posed recently on a popular talk show and comes from an actual ad in a local newspaper. I'm going to copy the ad word for word as it was read on the air:

"Male, young business professional, 30 years of age, seeking young lady from the age of 18 to 25 to live in my home in an upscale neighborhood, rent free in exchange for doing the cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc. Must have own transportation.
House contains all the luxury amenities you could want including flat-screen televisions, dishwasher and other appliances." And there was more along but you get the idea of what this guy is looking for.
Surprisingly, most of the women that called into the talk show to comment, stated that they'd take the offer. However, a small majority indicated that this ad was downright 'sexist.' What say you ladies? Would you consider this a personal affront to women and denounce it as 'sexist' or would you consider taking the offer?

admin answers:

"Seeking a young lady from 18-25 years old" Hum...doesn't sound like a cleaning lady that your looking for, maybe a bed buddy?

Ruth asks…

How would you go about finding information on an assisted living home?

This has been confusing to me so I need some help.

I live in Mobile Alabama, my property is being invaded, My neighbors recently sold there home as well as a guest home they had on there property. The folks next door to them bought the property.

Soon after they started a very large addition onto the guest home, I noticed them on my property so I politely introduced myself and showed them the property line because they had expressed interest in putting up a fence.

Well anyway about 1 week or so ago I started seeing lots of people walking around in there yard.
My daughters have a trampoline in the yard and they came in and told me some old guy keeps watching them from the yard next door. I started keeping an eye out. Well yesterday my youngest 14 came in and told me the old guy was peeing in our yard. Right in front of her.Well to be honest our yard is 6 acres so right in front of her is a ways away but she could see him.

I waked out and there he was with his business hanging out peeing in my yard. I was angry to say the least. I yelled what the **** are you doing and started across the yard. Well it turns out the guy was mentally retarded and well not right. I walked ooverto the property where more people where to find out who was in charge of the guy and the whole way the guy was begging me not to tell like a 5 year old. I found who was in charge and asked some questions and found this is a assisted living home . I called the city to find out what this place was and they told me they had no idea but it may be a state run facility and if it is they can't help me. A city worker came out and said that the woman in charge told her she is state run and can have 3 people living in her assisted living home. OK well I can't find anything online about this home. I can find every other state funded home in my city but not this one. The city worker told me she said she was run by the state but showed no proof of this. Also if it's true then she is allowed 3 people but does that mean she can buy more houses and put 3 people in each or what because that would mean she would have 9 people all together in 3 houses in a row. I would like to find information what ran out of ideas of where to check. Because It don't seem right to me that the state would say you can have 3 people so you buy houses and just add more people. Any ideas because I can't have this going on . I can't have people peeing in my yard . I am not a bad person I mean if she had told me when we first introduced ourselves I would probably been more likely to ask a bunch of questions but still offered my property for supervised walks since they really have no room to walk in her yard. What do I do , I feel she was being sneaky about the whole thing .

admin answers:

You need to file a grievance with the local Zoning Board and the agency that inspects housing right away.

And yes, she has taken advantage of you.

Joseph asks…

Attn: Women who have no time but have a comfortable household income?

Please answer the following questions(I am doing a bit quantitative research right now for my business):

1. Since you're schedule is very hectic, but would like to have a party (of any kind) hosted in your home, would you seek out the assistance of an event planner that focuses on home events?

2. Safely assuming your friends have a similar schedule and income level, do you think this is something they would seek out as well?

3. Are you always trying to think of interesting ideas just to have friends and family over?

4. Would you say there would be more social home functions in your circle of friends in the summer or during holiday season?

Please provide Yes or No answers only (no maybes please). Also if you have any additional comments to add, I would greatly appreciate it!

Thanks

admin answers:

1. Since you're schedule is very hectic, but would like to have a party (of any kind) hosted in your home, would you seek out the assistance of an event planner that focuses on home events?

Yes, I would

2. Safely assuming your friends have a similar schedule and income level, do you think this is something they would seek out as well?

Some of them would, but some woman enjoy planning things themselves

3. Are you always trying to think of interesting ideas just to have friends and family over?

Yes all the time, easter, cinco de mayo, birthdays....

4. Would you say there would be more social home functions in your circle of friends in the summer or during holiday season?

Definitely during the summer. We enjoy sitting outside on the patio drinking margaritas and eating appetizers while our kids play in the yard. In the winter we all tend to stay in doors and do not see each other much.

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